HURT FEELINGS

Hurt feelings—who needs them? Many of us do, in spite of the fact that they are painful and terribly destructive of our self-esteem. We can get a lot of mileage out of our misery.

`Feeling-hurt` can be our way of controlling other people. Extremely thin-skinned people are good at using the most trifling incidents to create a grievance. By taking offence, they take power. Perhaps they demand apologies from a family member who forgot to mail a birthday card. Or maybe they’re after sympathy for a difficult, but commonplace, life situation, or for ordinary, everyday hardships. In any event, they use their distress to claim other people’s attention. In skillful hands, emotional frailty can be an effective club indeed.

It’s our choice if we want to feel good by feeling bad. But it’s really not fair to twist other people’s arms for sympathy.

Sometimes I may need to toughen up a bit;I don’t have to bleed to be loved.

There is joy and comfort in a thick skin(Dr.James Bender)