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This seventh tape, Acquiring Honesty, deals with step number four of AA. Mr. C.. We've arrived at step four of our program, which is maybe searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. And those words mean just exactly what they say. This inventory should be searching and fearless if we are to know ourselves and to find the things that are blocking us off from a happy and contented life.
Incidentally, this is not something new. Know thyself is one of the oldest axioms in life, and the average person knows very little about himself. The purpose of the inventory is not for condemnation. Some people believe that. It's for honest evaluation of yourself as a person, which differs with every one of us. We want to discover our weaknesses and resentments, our suspicion and jealousy. Because that's a defensive mechanism that I think the average addict learns early, and that is to find more fault with other people than they can find with you.
You know, maybe I drink or maybe I take pills, but look at what he or she does. What has that got to do with me? I'm nobody else. I'm me, and I have to be aware of that all the time. What's good for other people isn't necessarily good for me. And the wrong attitudes that we have towards others, the criticism that we have in this gossip, that we're all guilty of. There's too much of that in AA. And yet we do it and think that we do it in a nice way to help them. That isn't true at all. Rumors that have been started, I always think of rumors, that ugly bird of ill old men that neither lights nor flies but hovers.
He started rumors about people and caused a great deal of trouble in life. I remember a case that we had some years ago before Judge Parson, St. Paul, where there was a divorce action. And the thing had developed some seven years before where this woman and the wife had received a letter telling about the infidelity of the husband. And for seven years they never talked to each other. The only way they communicated was through the children. You tell your mother this and she'd say you tell your father this. Finally they got the divorce action and a witness. You always have to have witnesses to a divorce and some cruelty.
It was put on the stand. And I don't know how the thing was brought about but anyway, the man asked this woman if she had written a letter and she denied it. So he got a handwriting expert. He got a German court for a while. And then the woman went back in the stand and she admitted that she had written that letter seven years before and there was absolutely no basis for it. And look at what she had done to that family. Judge Parson told her, he said you shouldn't spend years in prison for what you've done. He said you're such an ignorant person. He just castigated her.
Those are the things that you see in life. The wrong attitudes and you got some people who are just vicious with their tongue. And the purpose of this inventory is to find the faults, the old moral faults that have to be brought into light. And unless we do that there's no way of correction. I think the greatest fault of the alcoholic is the omissions. The failure of all of us to live up to that which should be expected of us as acceptable human beings.
They say that gold and silver are tried in the fire but acceptable men are tried in the furnace of their own humiliation. And it's kind of humiliating to look at yourself in truth and honesty and discover that you're not the person who has been trying to convince the world that you are and to find out what you actually are. It isn't who you are or what position you occupy in life, it's what you are. If you're satisfied with that the Lord knows nothing that I say or any of the counselors say is going to change you.
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But look at the skills and abilities that you have. I read a study not long ago that they said that the average person only uses 15% of his capabilities and that's an appalling statement. Yet I remember very dependent women that through one cause or another lost their husband, turned around and became terrific persons. I thought of Grandma Moses who never had a paintbrush in her hand until she was 79 years old and became a world-famed artist.
The skill, the ability was there all the time, he never used it. And then I recall a statement of Socrates when he was complimented on his skill as a teacher and he was a great teacher. And his reply was, they learned little or nothing from me. Everything they've been able to master and discover has come within themselves but to God and to me. They owe their deliverance. And certainly I have to say in truth and honesty this morning to God and to AA, I owe my deliverance from what I consider the most baffling, the most complex and destroying of all illnesses.
The purpose of this is to discover what is wrong with us and bring it out into light, the shames, the fears, the cruelties that we've exhibited to other people. Will you mention now to the average alcoholic, we always use the lexicon that suits our self. I've never been cruel, you know, I've never clouted anyone in a jar or struck my wife. What about the emotional, spiritual and mental harm that we do to other people by our conduct? Those are the things to look at and then realize that you have the ability to correct it and accept life as it is.
Not the way I would like to have it. Good Lord, there's too much of me still in the picture. But I have to accept life as it is and practice it every day that I live because no day of my life is the same. I assume, perhaps correctly, that you people look at me and say, well, he hasn't any problems and, you know, it's easy for him. Don't kid yourself. I think that probably the more you know about yourself the more difficult it is to exercise these disciplines and self-sacrifice that AA requires.
And until a person is willing to do that, he's not going to make much progress. I was taught years ago as a child that all happiness is based on denial. And that seems like an idiotic statement. And yet, all happiness is based on denial. The unrestricted, the licentious, the person who is unwilling to impose any discipline on themselves is going to be unhappy. And anyone that thinks that they can act as they see fit without regard to the rights and desires and the hopes and the aspirations of others is certainly on the wrong track.
But until we have the insight that gives us some understanding of what our basic problem is, we're lost people. And we develop this very complicated and mystic alibi system, justifying some of our wrongdoing because of other people or events or circumstances. What has that got to do with me? I remember the founder of AA talking to us early years ago and he said, if you will accept, accept AA as your way of life and live it honestly and well, no one can ever hurt you again in this life except you.
I'm the only one that can hurt me by the wrong attitudes of people, which I develop at times, but I have to straighten it out or I'm going to be in trouble. Then you get back to anger, self-pity, and all these things that curse the human race. Not only the alcoholic. Good Lord, look around and see the people who have never had a drink in their life and they're just as wretched and unhappy as anyone could be simply because their character defects are not as obvious as ours. And I don't think fundamentally we differ one iota from the mind run of people.
We're all human beings with the problems and frustrations, the anxieties that come to everyone. But it isn't the false. It's the poor way that we handle them. And that's why I stress acceptance so much. Once you accept a problem fully and bring it out into the open, it no longer has the power to disturb you.
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But we above all people must learn to master our moods. The only difference that I see between the alcoholic and other people is that we are more out of control because of the stultifying effects of liquor or pills. And we must learn to maintain our life by reasoning and intelligence. And the average alcoholic is above the average intelligent. Why does he get in difficulty? Always remember that this step is for your benefit. I'll benefit indirectly because you maintain your sobriety and of course I depend upon you good people to keep my sobriety because without you I would be lost and that applies both ways.
Because if it wasn't for the example of the men that we see who are living this program in its entirety, this would be the most discouraging work in the world. You're dealing with sick people and we don't accept that very well. If there was only some way some of us could get across to the alcoholic the finality of his illness such as the doctor is able to do with heart condition, with diabetes, tuberculosis or any other illness that can be arrested but not cured, it would simplify our work a great deal.
But you're dealing there with a human mind which is perhaps the most tricky thing in the world. And we deceive ourselves to our own destruction. We justify things. We justify anger and resentment. I think I mentioned there is a type of resentment that I have witnessed in a minor way in AA and certainly was illuminated or illustrated in recent history. And it's a resentment that isn't readily recognized because it's not directed against any person or place or time. It's against fate or fortune. Why me? Why do I have to be married to the only girl I can't get along with?
Why do I have the husband that I have? Why do I have the people that irk me so much? Other people don't have it. And all this time you're out your hands yourself usually because of a bad state of mind. You saw that in Hitler, Stalin and Mussolini who were resentful men. And one of the main characteristics of a resentful person is a spirit of revenge which the Italians call the daughter of silence. And you'll notice that those men destroyed the men that brought them to power because they resented ever being placed in a position where they would have to ask for help. And I've seen that in a minor way in AA where a man gets some security in his own sobriety and then cannot say enough evil things about his sponsor.
That's a resentful person. That's characteristic of them. And the only antidote for that is gratitude and generosity. And charity. Charity of thought more than financial matters. To be charitable in thinking about other people. And you know, we're like the old Pharisee. Thank God I'm not like other men. Oh, how you kid yourself. That's one thing that I think AA has removed from me because I know that there isn't a bestial, there isn't a criminal, there isn't a wrong act that's ever been done that I'm not capable of doing under certain circumstances.
Had I been trained as the Germans or the, well, some of our people too, or the Japanese, all the cruelties that were exhibited by them would be exhibited by me. And I don't think the human race differs very much. But look at how unhappy these people are. So to put down the irritation, the resentment, the hurts and the harms that we've caused from others by indifference, neglect, anger, hatred, and all these things that are so bothersome in life. We should be free.
Examine yourself concerning selfishness and self-centeredness. And that seems contrary to everything you see about the alcoholic because they're generous people. They're willing to help other people on their own level or on their own way. Well, to give charity of thought to other people, well, a lot of people irritate us and I don't think there's anything polyamorous about it. Tonight, I don't think there's anything Pollyannish about it, because there's some people, it's just there's a conflict of personality, you don't want to be around them, but you have to love them, and I think the best test of whether you're going to have a happy life or not, is what kind of thinking do you do when you're not drinking?
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If that isn't sound, if it isn't healthy, I don't think you're going to be happy at any time, and we are people who are not grateful, that's one thing that A.A. has taught me, to be grateful, for I thank Almighty God at night, that I have arms and legs that I can walk and talk and see you, where all around me I see the halt, the lame and the blind, are we grateful? You learn that in A.A., and practice it, that's the only way we'll become proficient, but we've been depending upon our will for a long time, and look back on this third step, which precedes the fourth, our will is unreliable, it's only when we try to act, and I don't think any of us do it too well, but knowledge of God's will, or the surrender to him, made the decision to turn our will and our lives over to God as we understood him, everything is contrary to human nature, or human desires rather, and we don't like the restrictions that are placed on us, what can you do about it?
I wouldn't like to be a diabetic, a tubercular, or a heart patient, but I think I have enough intelligence to accept it. We don't realize how unmanageable our life is because of all these common faults, anger, fear, hatred, resentment, immorality, and all these things that are so common to human nature. We deny our alcoholism or pill-taking, and therefore deny our behavior. I'm responsible for every act that I did in life, and yet I try to avoid it by blaming others. I remember, even when I was a kid, when I was caught with some skuldugger, I was inclined to, you know, it wasn't for him or her, I wouldn't have done that.
Well, that's a lot of nonsense. And, of course, the inclination of the young today is to follow the crowd. That's where kids get in so much trouble. They go out and perhaps drive around in their car, and some kid wants to stop and rob a filling station or this and that. Perhaps the other three or four kids with them know that it's wrong, and yet they don't want to be called chicken. But you have to live with yourself. I think you can follow the crowd very easily. I think it takes a little courage, a little stature, to say to this world of ours, which is so confused today, you can't do this to me. I am me, and I am not going to follow along to disaster. I think there's a time in everyone's life when they have to do that.
We have a need for self-awareness and the truth about ourself. And you have to discover the truth about yourself. What kind of a person am I? Well, I'm not satisfied. I'll tell you that. I suppose I'll have to always repeat that prayer of Tennessee, all that the man would rise in me and the man I am would cease to be, because we can be better than we are. But we're dealing with so much with this nameless fears and anxiety that curse the human race. I think at the extreme of your drinking, you live in a constant state of psyche pain and fear. Fear that you're going to be hurt by other people. People aren't like that, yet we impute bad motives to them.
Now, there's a lot of men, or not a lot, but some of them, that retain these negative things. Well, it can't be done, or I don't feel like doing it, or, you know, there's too much work involved. And the negation, which always comes from the use of pills or alcohol, is the greatest block to recovery. And it has to be on a permanent basis. I can, I will, and I must. And this is my problem, not anybody else's. And I have to live with me, no matter how much I dislike or like other people.
And I think once you have made that step, third step, the surrender to God, that they can isolate you to a mountaintop, and you still are able to function and function well, because you're then comfortable in your own mental home, and that's the place you're going to live until the day that you die.
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Now, every once in a while you'll hear some joker get up and say, you know, I never wrote down my inventory. I kept it all in my head. Well, I think there must be concrete in some of their heads, because there's much room to think about all these things. And let's return to the book, then, and see what the book has to say about this inventory, which, incidentally, fourth and the fifth step, the neglect or the poor doing of them is a cause for so many relapses.
I suggest, before we get into the fifth step, you read on page 56 and 57 of that book, The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, because Boyle points out the failure of men who made the fifth step. The fifth step, the other weak link in our chain, is poor sponsorship, and good sponsorship is a rarity. It means daily contact with an agent every day for a year with your sponsoree to get to know them, so they'll come to you before you'll take a drink, rather than the PLA's not capable of communicating with someone else.
Here on page 64, you'll find that the advice that the pen or pencil is one of the greatest instruments that we have. In dealing with resentments, we set them on paper. We listed people, institutions, or principles with whom we were angry. We ask ourselves, why was I angry? And I pointed out before, the worst type of anger is that conceived in injury. You have done something to me, you've said something about me that I resent, and therefore I am angry at you and I have a right to lash out at you.
That isn't what the book says. It says we cannot afford the luxury of resentment or anger. It says better adjusted people can afford that devious luxury, but not the alcoholic, and yet that's a grave fault of many of us. On page 65, on our grudge list, oh, a list is a written down item, we set opposite each name our injuries, whether it's our self-esteem, our security, our ambitions, our personal or sex relations, which had been interfered with.
And try to find out why. How much did I cause it? The book tells us that we are an extreme example of self-will run riot, only we usually don't think so. Sometimes people hurt us, and they seem to do it without provocation. Yet if we look back, we'll find that sometimes we stepped on other people's toes. One of the laws of life is, and that's the principle law of life, that as you meter it out, it will be metered unto you, perhaps not by the same person, but you do a wrong act or a harmful act to another person, someday that's going to come back to you, maybe not by the same person, maybe years later.
Lord, did I ever find that out from any age? And I thought, you know, I was living at the age of the best of my ability, which I realize now is very poor, and I thought everything should be fine. I used to think, what the dickens did you expect after 22 years of that drinking performance at Carnegie Medal? You know, we're built like that. We're through kicking everybody in the teeth, they should be together right away, but the hurts in yours are deep.
And you have to be willing to prove yourself. I don't care who the person is. We sometimes think that the world owes us a living. It doesn't, definitely. It gives you an opportunity to prove yourself. And boy, that is tough, once you get a reputation for drinking. I thought at one time I could rid myself of the charge of murder much easier than the charge of alcoholism. On page 66 it said, if we are to live, we have to be free of anger. We turn back to the list, for it holds the keys of the future. And for heaven's sake, when you make this list, keep in mind your own faults, no one else.
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I'll tell you a story. The founder of the A.D.A. was the director of Pioneer House, and he was very insistent that men make out the list, which the book recommends. Write it down. One fellow was delayed it, and he finally told him, get busy with that. He said, I want you to get that done before you leave here. A man came down one morning with a sheet of paper and said, I got it here, Pat. And he said, I want you to hear it. And Pat said, I'm not hearing your fifth step or anybody else, neither will I.
He said, you go to Father Allard or Reverend Richardson. Well, he said, I want you to look it over. Now you can believe this or not, but it's true. Here was a list of every one of his wife's faults, not one of his own. Don't make that kind of an inventory. On page 67, referring to our list again, you see, that's very explicit. Putting out of our minds the wrongs the others had done, we resolutely looked for our own mistakes.
And when we saw our faults, we listed them. We placed them before us in black and white. We admitted our wrongs honestly, and we're willing to set these matters straight. Until that takes place, we're still going to harbor resentment and self-pity. I know that sometimes you meet the wrong person who will not forgive if you try to set matters right with them, but you have done your best. And the other person suffers, not you. On page 68, we reviewed our fears thoroughly. And boy, that's one of the curses of the human race, the fears, the meaningless fears and anxieties that come to anyone who is addicted.
We place them on paper, even though we have no resentment in connection with them. Why am I fearful of life? And certainly I want all of you to walk tall when you walk out of here. You don't have to go around with your head down. I can say freely, I'm an alcoholic. I don't care what the group is. I can also add, what's your problem? We all have them. We all have faults and weaknesses. Some serious, not too serious in some cases, but they bother us.
And this is always for your benefit. There's a fear of giving up, giving up our crutch, our last comfort in life. That's fruitless. Because it's never what you give up, it's what you acquire that's important. And always keep that in mind. Yes, we seem to think, well, life will always be this way. It won't. If you will practice every day, day after day after day. Obviously, I'm not the person that's around today thinking that life wasn't worthwhile. I didn't want to live, but we're now famous for guts.
Not to lie to you, I may be an alcoholic very well, but in the world I was, every day I was a human being, we had 36 feet of intestines and damn little guts. And I think that's true when it comes to our personal problems and emotional life. Page 69. We all have sex problems. We'd hardly be human if we didn't. What can be done about them? We reviewed our own conduct over the years past. Where were we at fault? What should we have done instead?
We got this all down on paper and looked at it. Incidentally, I think I ever told you this, but it's one of the oldest psychological factors known about the human mind. That once you take a problem out of your mind, where you can deal with it objectively, then it no longer has the power to destroy you. As long as you harbor this in your mind, you're going to be in trouble. Dr. Maurer points that out in his statement. You are your secret. You are your secret, which is in the cure.
You are your secret, which is in the cure that you're given, and he points out that when we do good acts, then we get a credit for them, but we immediately spend them by bragging about it, I've heard men say, you go set off all night with that pull-off, well, that's a good act, but there goes his credit, because he spent it, and then when you've done wrong, you can feel it, and of course, the bills are per debit and fine rate.
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There are many people that are likely to overlook that, and other people, I hope you'll overlook it with me, period 65, we went back to our lives, nothing counted, but thoroughness and honesty, and those are very difficult things to do, because we're inclined to wander. You know, it's hard to concentrate, and particularly when you're drinking, I recall the story they told about a couple of men over in Ireland, and they were riding horses, and they were just arguing about how long a person could concentrate, and one man said, well, about 30 seconds, and the other man said, oh, you can concentrate for 5 or 10 minutes, well, and finally, Beth, one but the other of the horses, he couldn't concentrate for 5 minutes, so he said, you can't concentrate, sing Morse prayer, so he got off and got on his knees, and he started, and he was away with one, our father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name, say, does that include the saddle?
Well, boys, we're like that, you know, we deviate all the time, we're in a diverse mind thinking, and that's why, since you have to go over these things many, many times, like reading that book, I said, read it once, you'll get something out of it, twice, a little bit more, three times, a little bit more, sometime between the fifth and the fifteenth, complete reading of the first 164 pages, you're going to have a slight understanding of what an A is all about, and then you better study it.
I think I've read that book 50 times, I can pick it up today, and it's new, because I'm reading this at an advanced stage of learning about me, and I know how little I know about me, even today. And page 75, it says, we must pocket our pride and go to it, illuminating every twist of character, every dark cranny of the past. Once we have taken this step, withholding nothing, we are delighted. So there's where people get off. We're very much inclined to just think, oh, sometimes we didn't, this or that, but we don't go into the reasons of why we're unhappy people, and I think any addict isn't happy.
Well, the one thing that I would like to have your attention to, or a great deal of attention to, in your own case, is self-pity. Because my impression is that 99% of all relapses, or return to pills or booze, are some form of self-pity. Well, I know I should take a pill or a drink, but nobody's got the problems I have. Or I don't feel well. Well, if you analyze these things with a reasonable mind, if you don't feel well, go to a doctor and find out what's wrong, but if you go to them, tell them you're an addicted person, that you can't take pills or booze, and get the right answer.
Actually, I think they will handle most of that. She's pushing around, he's pushing around, I haven't got that, and the other people. And you think, well, why does this happen to me? That's resentment. Instead of counting our blessings, we have the ability to live an intelligent way of life. Why does an intelligent person go back to a toxic drug to solve any problem in life? We've been given the means and the intelligence to do it, but that requires a great deal of inappearance of thought, and that's why you'll hear this expression here 20 times.
It is easy in this world to live after the world's opinion, which amounts of people are doing today, never stopping to think whether it's good, bad, or indifferent for me. It's easy in solitude to live after your own. The great man is few in the midst of a crowd, can keep the convictions gained in solitude. What we hope here is in the solitude and seclusion of this place, you will plan your way of life, or plan your sobriety, that's the term that we use, and then have that element of greatness that enables you to hold it in all the pressures, the tensions, the anxieties, the frustrations of this confused world today.
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And I think it takes a great deal of independence of thought. Our inclination is always to follow the crowd, but with that attitude, you're going to bury yourself in a lot of anger, hatred, self-pity, and all the rest of it. We gauge life, I don't know, sometimes by material possessions, those are good. I don't think we clutter up our life too much with them. One of the great discoveries of life is the things that you can do with all of it.
You know, I often think of AA when I see people driving into a filming station during the summer. There's a wife and husband in the front seat, two or three kids in the back, and the whole back of the car is packed with a lot of debris. And I know what they are, they're poor travelers. And I always speculate that at the end of a journey they could take half of that stuff out of the car and find that they're having any use for it. The wise traveler travels with the necessities of life, the things that he knows that he's going to have use for.
Yet the inclination is to build up, well this might happen or this might happen. We're always doing that, getting ahead of ourselves. But everything is in the trunk and they can enjoy their journey. I've been at both coasts and watched people sail on several occasions, see somebody with 16 suitcases, poor travelers. Because they're always worrying about what happened to the blue suitcase or what happened to this one.
It would be better off if they were simplifying things. I know my wife went over to Manila when my grandchildren were born over there when my son-in-law was with the embassy in the Philippines. She met a gal who was going around the world. She had two small suitcases. That's a wise traveler. She knew the things that were important, but she wasn't bothered by all the debris that she was carrying with her.
I don't think I'm radical on anything, but I think that there is a point where you have to learn to travel lightly in life. Take with you the important things. Anger is another thing that bothered me. Don't think you're going to rid yourself of these things overnight or by an act of the will. A will is very unreliable. You probably will work on one fault, whether it's anger, fear, hatred, resentment, frustration, immorality, whatever it is. You'll work on that a long time until you get some control over it. It's always going to be with us.
I know that I worked on anger for a long period of time. I started out the day determined that I would not be angry at anyone. At first, I did lose my temper. Then I got to the point where I was a little bit disturbed because I started out the morning daring anyone to make me angry, but I got a little control over it. And I don't get angry because I know that if I get angry, then I turn over to someone else, the range by which they can direct my life, and I refuse to do that. I am me. I have to live my own life. I have to live in this mental home that I have created, regardless of what others do or what the events are. A lot of things I'd like to change in life, but I can't change them.
So, the principal thing here is to do a thorough job. Basically, and you'll hear this tomorrow, the fifth step, it's for the purpose of a mental house cleaning. We have cluttered up our mind for years with a lot of things that have been disasters. Anger, fear, hatred, resentment, self-pity, and all these things that are part of the commonality of the human race. What have we profited by? And common sense tells you to eliminate those things from your mind, and yet we're critical of other people. We don't like their color, their creed, or anything else, which they had nothing to say about any more than I did. They're human beings. They're socialized people. They're in the theological phase, a child of God.
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There's an old tarot story that I think applies to AA. It's a story about a happy prince. And this man used to go around to villages and towns, and everyone flocked out to see him and showered love and affection on him, because he was always ready to help someone, to encourage them, or listen to them, or help them with any work that they had. And then another young man saw him, and he thought, ah, it's because he's such a handsome young man. So he had a mask made that made him look like the happy prince, and he went around to all the places that the happy prince had been, and no one paid any attention to him.
And after he tried that a while, he thought, well, it can't be just his appearance. Maybe it's what he does. So this man then went around, and he was helping people, listening to them, and trying to be kind to all people and help them in any way that he can. And it wasn't long before the people came out and showered him with love and affection. He'd been doing that for quite a while, and then he got thinking one night, here, I'm impersonating another person. I'm not the happy prince. And he reached up to tear off the mask, which you see, it wouldn't come off, because he was then the happy prince.
So to you happy prince and princesses, keep doing AA. Do a little good each day if you can. Maybe it's just a telephone call or writing a letter. The small things in life that are so important. And if you do it long enough, I think you're going to find that you'll get there. We've all been seeking the degree of comfort and contentment in life, but you'll never have it unless you rid yourself of some of these old faults, clear out this mental hole.
And then it's going to take some time to fill it up with different thinking, and that's what we look for in AA, is a change of personality. Not just giving up the pills or giving up the drinks, but a complete change of personality where instead of a depressive, unhappy, and discontented life, you find contentment and happiness in dealing with other people. And have an appreciation for some of the real things of life, a good night's sleep, good conversation. The love that comes to people who try. And love is the best thing that you'll ever know in life. The best thing that any of us will ever know.
But boy, what misers we are with it. We're afraid to tell people that we love them. And a lot of things are misinterpreted today. You have to love everyone. There's nothing, as I say, Pollyannish about it, because you don't have to stay around people that irk you, but you have to love them and wish for them the same thing that you would like to have yourself. So give it a little thought and we'll close with the Lord's Prayer.
Amen.